Love Skill #18 – Ask a “Love Question”


Love Skill #18

Ask a “Love Question” 

By Dr. Scott Peck & Shannon Peck 


Asking a “Love Question”
is one of the most powerful love skills
for creating genuine intimacy

Love questions open hearts in amazing ways. This is one of the biggest of all the love skills.
So, what is a “love question?”

Here are some examples that open wide the doors to intimacy when you are with someone. You can ask:

  • “What are you most passionate about?”
  • “What is the most significant thing going on in your life?”
  • “What’s the best thing going on in your life?”
  • “What’s going on in your heart?”
  • “What are you thinking?”
  • “What is calling you higher in your life?
  • “What do you feel is your highest life purpose?”

These are questions that speak directly to another’s heart. You will be surprised at how easily most people will answer them – openly and genuinely. You will find yourself experiencing genuine intimacy immediately – and all because you took the initiative to ask a simple, but profound love question.

For greatest success with a love question, set the stage so the other person sees that something different is about to occur. Looking into the other’s eyes with a smile and a genuine heart, you might say, “I’d like to ask you a question.” Let them feel something special is happening.

Sometimes, when you ask a love question, there will be a pause – even a long pause. That’s because these are big questions and may catch another’s heart by surprise – but delightfully. Give them silence to think about the wonderful question.

It’s not unusual for someone to quietly question your authenticity by looking deep into your soul and wondering, “Do you really want to know?” “Are you being genuine in asking me this question?” “Are you for real?” You can assure them you are with your smile and attitude.

Love questions are the mark of the presence of a Love Master. You know there may be awkwardness, but you know that a love question opens a relationship to immediate intimacy. Rather than feeling awkward or wondering if you’ll look stupid or be rejected, your heart flows back to love skill #1 – Love alignment.

Let Love ask the question and choose the words. Let Love use you as the vehicle. Let your ego disappear and enjoy the love adventure. You don’t need to know the outcome in advance. The process creates intimacy.

There is great joy in asking a love question. It says to another person “You are special.” It also calls forth your own highest love self. Love questions flow from the internal, sacred question of a Love Master, “How loved do you feel in my presence?”


Love is infinitely FULL of
“Love Questions” 

Action Step

Move into your pure heart outside of all ego
& come into Oneness with Love Itself
From this place of divine Unity
Ask Love Questions
to everyone!

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Copyright (c) 2006-2017 by Scott & Shannon Peck

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