Love Skill #20 – Accept without Judgment


Love Skill #20

Accept without Judgment 

By Dr. Scott Peck & Shannon Peck 


Acceptance without judgment
is an invisible love skill that creates
intimacy, freedom, & massive goodwill

Acceptance without judgment is another rare but profound love skill.

How many people in your life accept you without judgment?

For most of us, the answer might be no one, one person, or just a handful. In other words, not many.
How many people in your life feel accepted without judgment by you? The answer to this might be revealing.
Most of us were simply never taught or have never experienced this empowering love skill.

For a Love Master, acceptance without judgment is an often invisible love skill that creates intimacy, freedom, and massive goodwill. Other’s hearts feel totally cherished by acceptance without judgment. An environment of acceptance causes their hearts to open like flowers feeling the warmth of sunshine.

Here’s how to practice the love skill of accepting others without judgment. It may not be easy at first, but every practice of this skill will demonstrate its value and will strengthen you as a Love Master.

When you are with others, make a conscious decision to accept them without judgment. Suspend all judgment of “right” or “wrong,” “good” or “bad,” “wise” or “stupid.”

Instead, just love them as they are. Let go of all scoring of what they are saying and doing. Just enjoy them. Let them feel your acceptance of them as worthy, intelligent, and lovable.

You don’t have to agree with what they are doing or saying. Let go of the role of being a mental police officer, advisor, or authority. Relax and accept.

You will be quite surprised at the outcome of acceptance without judgment. Others will feel your attitude of genuine love even though it’s invisible. They will begin to feel safe. They will open their hearts. They will explore ideas with more freedom. They will come to new conclusions in the safety of your non-judgmental, loving environment. They will feel deeply loved.

You may be surprised at what happens within you. As you genuinely accept others without judgment, you will see the power of your genuine acceptance washing through them. You will feel good about yourself. You will feel what it feels like to be a Love Master in action.

Acceptance without judgment is a highly refined love skill because it takes enormous patience, restraint, and practice.

The love payoffs, however, are off the charts.


Love loves as we are

Action Step

Become aware of your inner thinking
as you with another person &
practice releasing
all judgment

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Copyright (c) 2006-2017 by Scott & Shannon Peck

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